Learning Self-Motivation: 5 Important Keys to Success
We all have dreams. Whether you want to write a best selling novel or get that presentation down perfectly so you can WOW your bosses at the next meeting, there are times in our lives when we all need a little “get up and go”, or as we say in the professional world, motivation. Success requires completing a variety of mundane tasks. Getting started can be tough.
I put together a list of five key components that will help you become motivated when procrastination seems to be your only friend.
1 – Set Deadlines That Are Realistic
One of the biggest mistakes people make when they are trying to reach a large goal is that they expect too much from themselves too soon. If you want to write a book and expect to have five chapters completed by the end of the week, not only should you probably quit your job to reach that objective, you might be setting yourself up for failure before you even get started.
The College of Adult Learning suggests you can effectively set the right type of goals that will help you reach the finish line. Write down what you want, make a list of specific goals that are significant but realistic and attainable. Make sure you set an appropriate time frame and hold yourself accountable to what you set. If you need help, ask for it.
2 – Create The Right Setting
Where you work is as important as the goals you’ve set for yourself. If you aren’t feeling comfortable in your work area, it will be impossible to get what needs to be done. For example, if you are a person who sits among clutter and keeps telling yourself it isn’t affecting your work process you might want to rethink that stance. I’ve been there and to be honest,
I find I work better and harder if my workspace is free of the distractions desk clutter can bring. You can try putting a plant on your desk or an essential oil diffuser. Better Mind Body Soul recommends diffusing with scents like Frankincense for a boost in productivity. Overall, you should create a space you feel at ease in and free from thought diversions like strewn papers.
3 – Get Started
If you ever heard the phrase, “the secret to getting ahead is getting started” then there isn’t much more we can say than that. You aren’t going to reach the success you dream about if all you do is sit around and dream about it. But there is a reason why people have a hard time getting out of the starting gate.
It might be fear of failure, or maybe you fear success. The bottom line is we don’t start our road to amazing goals because we are afraid, and that’s okay. As Mark Twain once wrote, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear — not the absence of fear.” Remember, any goal worth obtaining is going to take courage on your part and without fear, there would be no courage.
4 – Reward Yourself
You’ve made it to your first goal. It’s time to reward yourself! But don’t overdo it. If you buy yourself a new car because you finished the first chapter of your spy novel then your goal to reward ratio might need a little tweaking. But be sure to give yourself some kind of accolade. It can be as simple as a piece of chocolate or taking yourself to that nice restaurant you enjoy.
The important part here is to pat yourself on the back when you do attain the goals yourself for yourself. While reveling in self-congratulatory behavior may seem indulgent the reality is you are your biggest advocate. At least you should be. We are complex, us humans, and self-love is essential for a healthy existence.
5- Be Gentle With Yourself
You are going to miss goals. It’s a fact. Because you are a human and to be human means that once in a while we drop the ball. Getting into a spiral of self-blame, deprecation, and anxiety will only bring you further away from achieving that goal. If you find that you tend to wallow in misery about your life you might want to speak to a friend or a professional.
If you miss a goal hold yourself accountable but move on quickly to get it finished so the future goals you set don’t suffer. Even as I write this there are goals that I might miss today, and I won’t say I’m okay with that. I’d rather they be completed, but I will make time to finish them and move on to the next, otherwise, I’ll get stuck and when your stuck, you can’t finish anything.
In The End
Becoming self-motivated is easier for some than it is for others. Only you know where you are on this scale but it doesn’t matter. If you stick to these five steps, you will find that you” ll become motivated and inspired by every achieved goal. The confidence you will receive will carry you to the next and then the next.
Our dreams keep us going at every stage of our lives. It’s good to have the tools that can bring you success and a sense of self-worth.